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“Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”
There’s a moment in Mark 6 that reveals something stunning about the heart of Jesus—and something equally stunning about the human heart. After feeding thousands from a handful of loaves, Jesus sends His disciples across the lake while He goes up to pray. A storm sweeps in, panic sets in, and when Jesus appears walking on the water, the disciples are overwhelmed with fear.
Mark says of them…
“They were greatly amazed… for they had not understood about the loaves, because their heart was hardened.”
Jesus said, “Don’t be afraid, be of good cheer, I am here.” Jesus expected the miracle of the loaves to change the way they saw themselves in relation to Him, from then on. He expected them to interpret their well-being through His provision and power. He expected them to say, “If He fed thousands through us, He will surely protect and provide for us.”
They were supposed to read themselves into His miracle—to let His faithfulness reshape their self-image, their expectation, and their confidence in His lordship.
Instead, they did what we often do:
They returned to fear because they returned to the old version of themselves.
Miracles Aren’t Just Proof of What Jesus Can Do—They're Invitations to See Who We Are With and In Him
Every time Jesus reveals Himself, He is also revealing who you are in Him. If He provided for them, He will provide for you. If He calmed their storm, He will stand with you in yours. You are not the exception.
The disciples failed in this not because they didn’t remember the details of the miracle, but because they didn’t let that miracle reinterpret their expectations.
That’s the healthy way to read yourself into life’s circumstances, here’s the unhealthy way…
When Reading Yourself Into the Story Becomes a Trap
In Luke 6, Jesus teaches a principle as powerful as the feeding of the five thousand:
“Judge not, and you shall not be judged… with the same measure you use, it will be measured back to you—pressed down, shaken together, and running over.”
Most people only apply this to money, but Jesus is talking about relationships.
Judgment, in the way Scripture describes it here, is not just about deciding right and wrong in your own logic. Judgment is assuming motive, attaching significance to someone’s actions in your own perspective, and then treating them according to your assumptions.
And when we do that, Jesus says it multiplies back into our lives—good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over.
Judgment is a seed too.
You sow judgment, and you reap more anger, more conflict, more strife, more relational turbulence than you ever meant to plant. This is especially true with the people closest to us.
“It’s not that our families are the most judgmental people, it’s just that we are the most judgmental and thin-skinned with our families.”
Why?
Because our identities were formed around them. We’re emotionally exposed around them. We react faster, assume quicker, and rehearse offenses longer.
We read ourselves into everything:
They didn’t text me back—are they mad?
They walked right past me—are they ignoring me?
They didn’t say thank you—do they even appreciate me?
We build entire emotional stories on fragments of information. And just like the disciples in the boat, we project our fears onto a moment that Jesus is trying to use to shape us.
Two Kinds of “Reading Yourself Into the Story”
1. The way Jesus intends:
Let His faithfulness redefine how you see yourself. Every miracle, every promise, every display of His compassion is meant to say: “This is who I am—and this is who you are with Me.”
2. The way Jesus warns us against:
Reading your insecurities, assumptions, and fears into what other people do. That’s judgment. That’s self-inflicted pain. That’s the feedback loop that keeps relationships in turmoil.
The same heart that Jesus wants to make confident in Him can quickly become the heart that assumes the worst in others.
The Hardest Homework You’ll Ever Do
Philippians 4 Homework for Your Heart
Pick one person you have had tension or strife with—
yes, that person.
Sit with the Lord and walk through Philippians 4:8 with their name in mind:
1. What is TRUE about them?
This includes who they are in Christ and the sincere good qualities they possess.
2. What is HONORABLE about them?
Where can you show respect, even if you disagree?
3. What is RIGHT?
Not “right” according to your emotions, but right according to Scripture.
4. What is PURE?
Filter out motives you’ve assumed.
5. What is LOVELY?
Yes, there is something lovely. Write it down.
6. What is ADMIRABLE?
Even one small thing counts.
7. What is EXCELLENT or PRAISEWORTHY?
How can you reinforce the good rather than rehearse the bad?
When you do this, something powerful happens:
Your heart stops reading fear and hurt into the story and starts reading love and truth into it instead.
You break the feedback loop.
You disrupt the judgment cycle.
You choose the mind of Christ over the reflex of the flesh.
And whether they change or not— you will.
